The wedding is getting close....

After making sure that our honeymoon was booked (ya know, priorities), we had money left from our tax return to plan our wedding. I have managed to purchase shoes, his shoes, the decor for the tables (for the most part), some favors for attendants, plates, napkins,cups and that's about it. We still need to pay the other half for our venue, rent a tux for our son, purchase shoes for our son, purchase food for guests, purchase our marriage license, purchasing the remainder of our attendant gifts and have money for eating and souvenirs from our honeymoon. I have an interview for a second job to *hopefully* curtail the costs. I've been as frugal as possible while still trying to stay true to our ideals. I think the part that frustrates me the most is that I had to use a pretty decent chunk of our "budget" to bail my FH out of jail. I know our wedding is a bit difficult w/o the groom, but there was a piece of me that wanted to let him sit in there and consider if he's really all in on this. I've done the majority of the planning/buying/budgeting and I feel like he's just along for the ride. I've told him that he is responsible for feeding our guests. He started to complain and I looked at him and asked if he'd rather have food duty or take care of EVERYTHING else. I said he was good with food. That was 2 months ago. Nothing has been done. I'm afraid we're going to have some very hungry guests. I'm perfectly fine with going to the justice of the peace and getting it done quick. The "big wedding" is all for him and what he wants, yet I'm stuck doing all the darn leg work. Some days I just want to throw in the towel.
Please don't think that I am making a huge mistake by marrying him. I love him so very much. I have been married before, so I see the pomp and circumstance as nothing more than wasted money. It's an issue I have within myself and I'm working to make this event memorable for both of us while keeping the carbon footprint, and cost as small as possible.There are many ways that we are two peas in a pod. We have many likes and dislikes that are similar. I think my focus is more on how our life will be after the wedding than the wedding itself. I'd love to say that we could scale back the wedding, but honestly I have no idea how to make it any smaller than it already is.
We are making our own confetti,bouquet, and boutonnieres. Our cakes are a wedding gift, as is the photography.  My MOH is purchasing the services of a "day-of" wedding planner, which will be really helpful. Our table decorations are activity books for everyone to enjoy, toys for children to play with, pens/pencils/crayons, etc. I feel that our wedding is minimal, especially in comparison to weddings I have seen on here and weddings that are considered traditional. I just want someone to say the magic words that bind us together "until death do us part".
I've totally gone on a rant here, sorry. I'll get back on target.
It would be nice to win a free wedding. But I want our day to be special, wonderful and worry free so I am taking on a part time job on top of my full time job. I am doing it to make our wedding, my bachelorette party (girl trip to Chicago!) and honeymoon (Seattle baby!) the most wonderful time we can. I just hope that I don't wear myself out while doing all this work.